Stop Comparing Start Living

“Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people.”

There isn’t a worst killer of happiness then comparison. It kills the joy, makes your achievements look smaller and take all the happiness from your life.

The funny thing about comparison is the person you are comparing yourself with might be comparing himself with you and becoming unhappy.

This situation happens because we tend to compare our weaknesses with other people strength. 2 people can easily compare their selves with each other and both can feel unhappy or under achieved.

If Steve Jobs would have compared himself with Bill Gates over the wealth he would have been super unhappy. Bill Gates was 10 times richer then Steve Jobs and no doubt was doing much well then him.

You can be all happy and content if you start comparing and start living. Here are our 5 rules on how to stop comparing.

Count Your Blessings

Your mind has been designed over the period of years to compare. The schools the parts everything is about positions.

How you rank against other people?

It becomes the reason of parent’s pride and happiness. But it’s a disastrous habit to have,

No One can be good at everything.

Start counting your blessing and look at the people who are not fortunate as you. You can develop a daily habit of counting and writing for things that you have been grateful for in the night.

This will automatically start coding your mind to look more towards your blessings.

Get More Aware of Comparison Habit

As we grow old comparison becomes habit and it enters in our sub-conscious. We start doing it day in day out.

94% of the time we don’t realize that we are doing it and its so contagious that we keep doing it.

We compare when we go out with friends, when we eat at a restaurant etc.

To stop comparing habit and identify things you compare about start by identification. When you know what you compare you can immediately stop it next time and start counting your blessing.

For example if you compare yourself with a friend who buy a new car every year versus you who has been driving the same car for the last 5 years.

Identification can help you in stopping this behavior and probably be able to divert your attention towards people who has nothing and feel blessed in life.

Nobody is Perfect

Understanding that nobody is perfect can help us in loving ourselves more.

It helps us looking at the bright picture that we all have weaknesses and we all are imperfect. The school teaches us to be hard on ourselves and by the time we graduate we forget how to be happy.

We need to love ourselves to be happy and get comfortable with idea that no one is perfect at everything.

Start Comparison With Yourself 

You will meet a lot of people who are doing a lot in life but still not happy.

They have million things to be grateful and happy about but they are not happy. The problem with these people is they judge themselves based on how other people are doing in life.

That simply means you are putting your happiness in other person hand and that is surely a destructive way to live.

We can be happy and still work on our self by start comparing with our self. We can always try to be a better version of our self and start living happily.

Bonus Tip

Keep a journal and write everything you are grateful about in it.

The more you focus on your achievements and your blessing the less you compare.In result the happy you are.

Life is short try to add as much happiness as possible.


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  1. Genius Turner says:

    Good article. Clear and straight to the point.

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Stop Comparing Start Living

“Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people.”

There isn’t a worst killer of happiness then comparison. It kills the joy, makes your achievements look smaller and take all the happiness from your life.

The funny thing about comparison is the person you are comparing yourself with might be comparing himself with you and becoming unhappy.

This situation happens because we tend to compare our weaknesses with other people strength. 2 people can easily compare their selves with each other and both can feel unhappy or under achieved.

If Steve Jobs would have compared himself with Bill Gates over the wealth he would have been super unhappy. Bill Gates was 10 times richer then Steve Jobs and no doubt was doing much well then him.

You can be all happy and content if you start comparing and start living. Here are our 5 rules on how to stop comparing.

Count Your Blessings

Your mind has been designed over the period of years to compare. The schools the parts everything is about positions.

How you rank against other people?

It becomes the reason of parent’s pride and happiness. But it’s a disastrous habit to have,

No One can be good at everything.

Start counting your blessing and look at the people who are not fortunate as you. You can develop a daily habit of counting and writing for things that you have been grateful for in the night.

This will automatically start coding your mind to look more towards your blessings.

Get More Aware of Comparison Habit

As we grow old comparison becomes habit and it enters in our sub-conscious. We start doing it day in day out.

94% of the time we don’t realize that we are doing it and its so contagious that we keep doing it.

We compare when we go out with friends, when we eat at a restaurant etc.

To stop comparing habit and identify things you compare about start by identification. When you know what you compare you can immediately stop it next time and start counting your blessing.

For example if you compare yourself with a friend who buy a new car every year versus you who has been driving the same car for the last 5 years.

Identification can help you in stopping this behavior and probably be able to divert your attention towards people who has nothing and feel blessed in life.

Nobody is Perfect

Understanding that nobody is perfect can help us in loving ourselves more.

It helps us looking at the bright picture that we all have weaknesses and we all are imperfect. The school teaches us to be hard on ourselves and by the time we graduate we forget how to be happy.

We need to love ourselves to be happy and get comfortable with idea that no one is perfect at everything.

Start Comparison With Yourself 

You will meet a lot of people who are doing a lot in life but still not happy.

They have million things to be grateful and happy about but they are not happy. The problem with these people is they judge themselves based on how other people are doing in life.

That simply means you are putting your happiness in other person hand and that is surely a destructive way to live.

We can be happy and still work on our self by start comparing with our self. We can always try to be a better version of our self and start living happily.

Bonus Tip

Keep a journal and write everything you are grateful about in it.

The more you focus on your achievements and your blessing the less you compare.In result the happy you are.

Life is short try to add as much happiness as possible.


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