12 Quick Ways To Ruin Your First Impression

There is a reason why people say and believe ‘first impression is your last impression’.

How you come across in terms of dressing, body language, gestures and overall communication is extremely crucial when it comes to people making up their minds about what sort of person you are.

Importance of a pleasant smile, confident gestures, appropriate dressing and firm handshake cannot be undermined.

However, despite ensuring these checks one can easily fall prey to ruining his or her first impression owing to the common pitfalls below:

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Punctuality is a Joke

If you arrive late to the interview or a first meeting you’re sure to instantly ruin your first impression.

Nobody likes to be kept waiting so if you leave people kicking their heels while you’re being purposefully late, you are definitely set to start on the wrong foot.

Everybody’s time is valuable so one must strive to be punctual.

If something unexpected occurs which is causing you to run late or cancel an appointment- ensure that you give a heads up (a call, dropping an email or an SMS) so that others don’t keep waiting for you.

Being Late Quote Funny

Sulk and Brood

If you maintain a sulky and surly attitude, reply with monosyllables and never smile you will definitely ruin your impression.

Everyone likes a smile and nobody likes to interact with a person with a bad attitude.

Using fillers like ‘Uh’, ‘Oh, ‘Um’ followed by an awkward silence goes to show the other person that you are not interested in the conversation and your attention is elsewhere.

Phone vs People

Always be on the phone, keep texting when someone is talking to you.

Make sure to fully ignore the person you’re sitting with. Remember, it only takes 5 to 7 seconds to form a first impression so use them fully to create a bad one.

Being engaged on your cellphone while the other person is trying to have a conversation with you is disrespectful.

Eye contact isn’t Necessary

Not having an appropriate eye contact simply reads ‘I am not interested in talking to you’ or goes to prove that you are too arrogant.

Eye contact is a crucial part of an engaging conversation, it tells the other person that you are mentally present and are keen to talk.

It also shows that you are confident and comfortable in your own skin.

Not maintaining an eye contact is bad however, trying to maintain an eye contact too hard is worse.

It will make the other person uncomfortable, will make you come across as fake and will give a vibe that you are trying to stare someone down because you are being judgmental.

A Lousy Dressing Sense

You should always be dressed according to the need of the hour.

You will instantly put people off if you attend a formal event wearing your pajamas or if you attend a sleepover in a three piece suit.

Dressing sloppily or carelessly will always ruin your impression.

Dress for Success Quote

Good dressing sense does not mean burning a hole in your pocket- it simply means carrying yourself well, being comfortable in what you wear, and dressing according to the occasion by wearing crisp, clean and well-ironed clothes.

Body Language

Your body language is the key factor when it comes to people making up their mind whether they like you or not.

If you want to fall into the trap of ruining your impression within the first 5 seconds, slouch and offer a clumsy handshake.

Either hold on too tight or offer a limp hand. This will definitely put people off.

A relaxed, easy going person always makes a good first impression.

Handshake Quotes

If you’re uptight and awkward, other people will also be awkward around you.

Asking Intrusive, Personal Questions

Questions like

‘How much money do you make?’,

‘What are your monthly expenses?’,

‘How much do you save?’

are extremely rude and personal.

Asking such questions during meetings would tell that you are intrusive and have zero respect for privacy of others.

What people earn and save is none of your business so it’s not your place to be inquisitive about their financial history and choices.

Bad Mouthing

Starting a relationship on the basis of bad mouthing some common people or perhaps your ex-boss (or your current one) is the worst way of breaking ice with someone.

No one appreciates a negative venting session and by doing so you will leave a doubt (or maybe even a belief) with others that you have the capability to complain about them as well.

Constant Complaining

Complaining about your flat coffee, tough Monday, horrible weather- in short about anything would leave a bad impression with people.

Small talk is fine but complaining to initiate conversations is not the best strategy.

People will clearly form a bad opinion about you (read: a person who cribs and whines).

Complaining quotes

If something is bothering you so much that you are complaining about it all the time- then you must address that pain point and bring about a change rather than engaging in grouchy behavior.

Making Everything about Yourself

If all your statements are based on ‘I’ and every conversation is about you then you will leave a bad taste with people.

No one likes the company of self-centered people because they come across as too full of themselves, egoistic and arrogant.

People will not be comfortable around you because they would doubt your ability to listen, relate and empathize.

Impression Quote

Don’t just talk about yourself- develop an ability to listen actively (speak less, listen more).

Lack of Contribution

Not having interesting and thoughtful questions to ask or lacking appropriate answers during a conversation can bring you from ten to zero very quickly.

People read cues and if you fail to be attentive or are pretending to be engaged (for instance: going blank when someone asks you something related to a conversation you were just having) then it will spoil your impression.

Being Forgetful

Forgetting names or addressing people using incorrect names is an offence.

If you are in a common gathering where you are aware of the people because you have met them before then you should know their names too.

Being forgetful is not an excuse.

If you are unsure of the name or it has slipped from your mind then asking politely is more appropriate than playing a guess game and facing the embarrassment of getting it wrong.

Person Name - Quote

Communication is a mix verbal and non-verbal cues.

One must learn to balance the correct mix of both with the right seasoning of confidence, charisma and thoughtful thinking to ace their first impression.

Remember, you are defined by how you first came across as!



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12 Quick Ways To Ruin Your First Impression

There is a reason why people say and believe ‘first impression is your last impression’.

How you come across in terms of dressing, body language, gestures and overall communication is extremely crucial when it comes to people making up their minds about what sort of person you are.

Importance of a pleasant smile, confident gestures, appropriate dressing and firm handshake cannot be undermined.

However, despite ensuring these checks one can easily fall prey to ruining his or her first impression owing to the common pitfalls below:

first impression last

Punctuality is a Joke

If you arrive late to the interview or a first meeting you’re sure to instantly ruin your first impression.

Nobody likes to be kept waiting so if you leave people kicking their heels while you’re being purposefully late, you are definitely set to start on the wrong foot.

Everybody’s time is valuable so one must strive to be punctual.

If something unexpected occurs which is causing you to run late or cancel an appointment- ensure that you give a heads up (a call, dropping an email or an SMS) so that others don’t keep waiting for you.

Being Late Quote Funny

Sulk and Brood

If you maintain a sulky and surly attitude, reply with monosyllables and never smile you will definitely ruin your impression.

Everyone likes a smile and nobody likes to interact with a person with a bad attitude.

Using fillers like ‘Uh’, ‘Oh, ‘Um’ followed by an awkward silence goes to show the other person that you are not interested in the conversation and your attention is elsewhere.

Phone vs People

Always be on the phone, keep texting when someone is talking to you.

Make sure to fully ignore the person you’re sitting with. Remember, it only takes 5 to 7 seconds to form a first impression so use them fully to create a bad one.

Being engaged on your cellphone while the other person is trying to have a conversation with you is disrespectful.

Eye contact isn’t Necessary

Not having an appropriate eye contact simply reads ‘I am not interested in talking to you’ or goes to prove that you are too arrogant.

Eye contact is a crucial part of an engaging conversation, it tells the other person that you are mentally present and are keen to talk.

It also shows that you are confident and comfortable in your own skin.

Not maintaining an eye contact is bad however, trying to maintain an eye contact too hard is worse.

It will make the other person uncomfortable, will make you come across as fake and will give a vibe that you are trying to stare someone down because you are being judgmental.

A Lousy Dressing Sense

You should always be dressed according to the need of the hour.

You will instantly put people off if you attend a formal event wearing your pajamas or if you attend a sleepover in a three piece suit.

Dressing sloppily or carelessly will always ruin your impression.

Dress for Success Quote

Good dressing sense does not mean burning a hole in your pocket- it simply means carrying yourself well, being comfortable in what you wear, and dressing according to the occasion by wearing crisp, clean and well-ironed clothes.

Body Language

Your body language is the key factor when it comes to people making up their mind whether they like you or not.

If you want to fall into the trap of ruining your impression within the first 5 seconds, slouch and offer a clumsy handshake.

Either hold on too tight or offer a limp hand. This will definitely put people off.

A relaxed, easy going person always makes a good first impression.

Handshake Quotes

If you’re uptight and awkward, other people will also be awkward around you.

Asking Intrusive, Personal Questions

Questions like

‘How much money do you make?’,

‘What are your monthly expenses?’,

‘How much do you save?’

are extremely rude and personal.

Asking such questions during meetings would tell that you are intrusive and have zero respect for privacy of others.

What people earn and save is none of your business so it’s not your place to be inquisitive about their financial history and choices.

Bad Mouthing

Starting a relationship on the basis of bad mouthing some common people or perhaps your ex-boss (or your current one) is the worst way of breaking ice with someone.

No one appreciates a negative venting session and by doing so you will leave a doubt (or maybe even a belief) with others that you have the capability to complain about them as well.

Constant Complaining

Complaining about your flat coffee, tough Monday, horrible weather- in short about anything would leave a bad impression with people.

Small talk is fine but complaining to initiate conversations is not the best strategy.

People will clearly form a bad opinion about you (read: a person who cribs and whines).

Complaining quotes

If something is bothering you so much that you are complaining about it all the time- then you must address that pain point and bring about a change rather than engaging in grouchy behavior.

Making Everything about Yourself

If all your statements are based on ‘I’ and every conversation is about you then you will leave a bad taste with people.

No one likes the company of self-centered people because they come across as too full of themselves, egoistic and arrogant.

People will not be comfortable around you because they would doubt your ability to listen, relate and empathize.

Impression Quote

Don’t just talk about yourself- develop an ability to listen actively (speak less, listen more).

Lack of Contribution

Not having interesting and thoughtful questions to ask or lacking appropriate answers during a conversation can bring you from ten to zero very quickly.

People read cues and if you fail to be attentive or are pretending to be engaged (for instance: going blank when someone asks you something related to a conversation you were just having) then it will spoil your impression.

Being Forgetful

Forgetting names or addressing people using incorrect names is an offence.

If you are in a common gathering where you are aware of the people because you have met them before then you should know their names too.

Being forgetful is not an excuse.

If you are unsure of the name or it has slipped from your mind then asking politely is more appropriate than playing a guess game and facing the embarrassment of getting it wrong.

Person Name - Quote

Communication is a mix verbal and non-verbal cues.

One must learn to balance the correct mix of both with the right seasoning of confidence, charisma and thoughtful thinking to ace their first impression.

Remember, you are defined by how you first came across as!



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